The Downfall of Perfectionism
Let’s talk about perfectionism. Now, I know some of you flinched when you heard that word, while others might feel its grip but have never put a name to it. By definition, perfectionism is a personality trait where we set unrealistically high expectations for ourselves or others.
First, let me remind you: if you struggle with perfectionism, you are not alone. I fight this battle almost daily, and we’re tackling it head-on because I want us both to experience victory—together.
One of the biggest reasons women fall into the trap of perfectionism is fear and a lack of faith. Now, I know what you might be thinking: “Kristin, I have faith!” And I believe you do. But James 2:20 reminds us that faith without works is dead.
If perfectionism is keeping you from stepping boldly into the gifts and talents God has given you, then your faith—no matter how strong—remains stagnant.
I’m not here to attack, sis. I’m here because I’ve been there. In 2024, perfectionism held me back. Yes, I had wins—big and small—but deep down, I know I didn’t live up to my full potential. Why? Because I was afraid:
Afraid of not being good enough.
Afraid of not being smart enough.
Afraid of not being enough.
And while I don’t carry shame or condemnation for these struggles (because Jesus paid for that on the cross), I do feel the weight of conviction. It grieves me to know how many doors God opened for me while I stood paralyzed by fear and self-doubt.
But here’s the good news: we don’t have to stay stuck here.
Here’s the thing about perfectionism: when we strive for flawlessness, we leave no room for grace.
I love that the Bible tells us we could never earn God’s grace—it’s a gift He gives freely. “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.” — Ephesians 2:8
And girl, here’s a beautiful truth: “We are God’s masterpiece.” — Ephesians 2:10
Even the most skilled artist can find tiny flaws in their work. But God doesn’t look at us through a lens of critique—He sees His creation and calls us very good.
A few weeks ago, the Holy Spirit whispered something to me, and it set me free. As I prepared for the launch of my podcast, Girlhood and the Gospel, I kept obsessing over every little detail that didn’t feel perfect. And in that moment, I remembered:
When God created mankind, He didn’t say, “Man is perfect.” He said, “It is very good.”
That truth still brings tears to my eyes, because if the God who made me in His image didn’t demand perfection from me, why do I demand it from myself?
His grace is sufficient. His strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9).
We serve a God who isn’t waiting for us to “get it all right.” He’s asking us to step out in faith, trust His plan, and let Him fill in the gaps.
If perfectionism has been holding you back—whether in your faith, relationships, work, or personal goals—remember this: God doesn’t expect perfection from you. He expects surrender.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” — 2 Timothy 1:7
Sis, let’s stop letting fear and perfectionism keep us on the sidelines. Let’s step boldly into the plans God has for us.
Stay tuned, stay encouraged, and remember: God’s grace is always enough.
Until next time—walk boldly, live freely, and embrace the beauty of God’s grace.
With love and grace,
Kristin